Monday, December 20, 2010

Slaying Dragons

In her sermon on Sunday, Parisa exhorted spiritual seekers to push beyond the boundaries of the familiar, even if such journeying crosses through dragon-filled lands.


Credit: Sportsosphere
Our call to venture forth is issued by the enfleshed God - the Holy Voice that invites us into personal relationship. "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest" (Matthew 11:28). Of course, the rest of which Jesus here speaks need not mean physical sloth, but rather a peace of mind and levity of heart. It is the sense of wholeness we feel when building new friendships that sustain us. And First Parish as a congregation has already embarked on such a trek, cultivating relationships with Morningstar Baptist Church in Mattapan and our mentor congregation in Richmond, Virginia.


Embracing growth is hard enough; actively pursuing it is even more spiritually challenging. Anne McConney writes: "Here the journey begins, and it is long and not for the faint of heart." In her Buddhist practice of meditation, Pema Chodron exhorts practitioners to take their fears seriously. Rather than shrink from the discomfort of fear, we would do well to study our fear - pick it up, turn it around, sit with it. These fears represent our limits, the borders separating who we are now and the person we aspire to be.


Who do we want to be as a church? And what fears are keeping us back? Which dragons must we slay?


Please: continue the conversation.

Sunday, December 12, 2010

Jesus

In my sermon this morning, I took up the theme of Incarnation by revisiting the Christian model of divine enfleshment. The relevance of this model to present-day Unitarian Universalism derives not from its uniqueness in the world (for there are numerous faiths that depict the Holy in human form), but rather from its historical proximity to our religious heritage.


Abtei St. Hildegard
Ever since the Transcendentalists dislodged Unitarianism from its explicitly biblical foundation in the nineteenth century, our tradition has seen a steady decline in interest in the figure of Jesus. Today, in many Unitarian Universalist congregations, the mere mention of Jesus arouses suspicion and disapproval. How the tides of history turn: banished once from the Church for heresy, we now cast out the very figure for whose humanity these heretics risked their lives.


First Parish in Milton, thankfully, blessedly, still extends the hospitality shown to Buddha and the Goddess to the figure of Jesus as well. Equal opportunity inspiration.


That does not mean, of course, that every member needs to find spiritual sustenance in the Jesus story. But she would do well to maintain an open mind and swelling heart. And my sense is that she does.


So, what then of Jesus?


Former Unitarian minister of Boston's Second Street Church, the Rev. Henry Ware Jr., once described Jesus as "the personification of religion." Rev. Francis Greenwood Peabody, former minister of First Unitarian Church in Harvard Square, added this: "The supreme concern of Jesus throughout his ministry was, — it may be unhesitatingly asserted, — not the reorganization of human society, but the disclosure to the human soul of its relation to God. Jesus was, first of all, not a reformer but a revealer; he was not primarily an agitator with a plan, but an idealist with a vision."


This morning, I offered the following gloss:
The story of Jesus is more about us than it is about Jesus. [...] Heaven is not outside this life, but inside of it, concealed. Jesus reveals to us the location of this worldly heaven: it’s inside of you. You are the site of God. Or as we read in the lesser known Gospel of Thomas: 'The Kingdom is within you.' We commonly conceive of the Incarnation as God touching down to earth. Our Unitarian heritage, though, challenges us to see the Incarnation as humanity touching up to God. Jesus lifted us to the heavens by showing us that we already possess everything we need to live divine lives.
[...]
Jesus lived at a time when the smallness of prejudice clouded society’s vision – not all that dissimilar from the present age, unfortunately. The Roman leaders of that world exploited race and class for imperial gain. Military triumph abroad diverted widespread social inequality at home. And yet, somehow, Jesus saw God where others saw danger, fear and disgust. Jesus saw forgiveness where others saw judgment. Jesus saw love where others saw condemnation. Jesus saw God because he knew that God was personal, that each person serves as the site of God. The clarity of his vision was not perfect eye-sight, but wondrous heart-sight. It was 20-20 vision of the soul.


I shouldn't over-state my reverence for Jesus. There are countless episodes in the New Testament when I want to speak out against his actions (or the way his actions were remembered and recorded). Jesus can be a deeply disturbing figure. That said, it is precisely this counter-cultural challenge for which I appreciate Jesus the most. In the words of Rainer Maria Rilke's classic poem, Archaic Torso of Apollo: "You must change your life."


Who is Jesus to you? And do you believe that Unitarian Universalists should spend more or less time with Jesus?


Please: continue the conversation.







Monday, December 6, 2010

Discipline

One of the most powerful and provocative learnings that Parisa shared with us this past Sunday was that of discipline. In committing herself to, and then training for, a triathlon earlier this year, she developed a physical routine to which she held herself accountable. It is tempting, Parisa admitted, to be lured into endless cross-training, switching exercises on a whim. And certainly, there is something to be said for 'switching it up' from time to time, in order to isolate different muscles. But the tendency to bounce around in an unfocused frenzy can be equally as damaging as falling victim to an overall flakiness - both result in underdeveloped strength and weak stamina.  


Credit: Mike Baird
The jump from physical discipline to spiritual discipline is obvious, though often neglected. Growing up as a Unitarian Universalist, I had little difficulty finding someone (usually a family member, friend or coach) to coax me into playing a physical sport. First it was basketball, then soccer, then volleyball. All three demanded rigorous training and intense commitment. But when it came to spiritual exercise, I found myself empty-handed, unhelpfully counseled to 'follow my search for truth and meaning.' I'll follow, I agreed, but I first need to learn how to walk!


Tending to the needs of our spiritual health is vitally important, I believe. I've seen it in my own life. When I'm spiritually disciplined, I feel more centered, more grounded, more alert, more receptive.


Of course, the very idea of discipline can seem off-putting to some - a relapse of that authoritarian religious sentiment we threw off by becoming Unitarian Universalists. Here, French mystic Simone Weil may be of assistance. On her view, we would do well to draw a distinction between externally-imposed and internally-motivated discipline. The former should be avoided, the latter embraced. For self-willed commitment - a personal pledge to spiritual practice - can in fact be liberating. If you think about it, there is something inherently unsettling about the absence of such discipline. Without it, we are little more than slaves to the anarchy of external circumstance. To be spiritually disciplined is to take responsibility for making meaning on our own. It is to receive the world, filter it through our practice, and then live on those spiritual nutrients.


Do you have a spiritual practice? Would you consider yourself disciplined? Should Unitarian Universalists be spiritually disciplined? Why, or why not?


Please: continue the conversation.



Monday, November 29, 2010

Messengers

This season is one of messages and messengers - sacred conveyors, in fact. With the onset of Advent, we prepare ourselves to receive the birth of a "young and fearless Prophet of ancient Galilee." As the hymn of said title exhorts, the messenger himself is in large part the message: "Your life is still a summons to serve humanity." The Hanukkah story, which commences this year on December 1, also recalls a message of triumphant hope amidst the rubble of hopelessness.


Last week, as I feasted with family and friends, the typology of the messenger felt quite near to my heart. Suffice it to say that I found myself elaborating on my ministry at First Parish more than once. Whether reminiscing with old friends in the living room or grabbing a drink at the local bar, the mere utterance of my vocational ambitions triggered an onslaught of questions and confessions. One trip with me to a social gathering dispels any rumor of religion losing its relevance. No, people hunger for an outlet to share their spiritual yearnings and religious hang-ups. And I'm a messenger of such an invitation. 



Rabbi Abraham Heschel once noted: "Man is a messenger who forgot the message." 


In all of my conversations this past week, I wrestled with this very observation. It is so easy to lose sight of the Message behind the message. When one mother spoke of her best friend's emotional struggle to accept her son's sexuality, I heard her own longing for a community of acceptance and love. And when I responded with questions about the social support network of her friend and her friend's son, what I really wanted to say was: your friendship must mean the world to her. And then: they both need a place that will hold them in this time of vulnerability.


First Parish, I have come to believe, is where we messengers re/member the message. Where we recall our call, and where we, as members, live it out.



Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Mourning the Loss of Ajeet Singh Matharu

India is far away, and news travels slowly. Earlier this evening, I caught wind of a tragic car accident that killed a colleague and friend of mine this past July.


I only met Ajeet Singh Matharu once - out in California for a Sikh Studies conference at which I also presented a paper. The brevity of our relationship belies the depth of connection and inspiration I experienced with and from him. Ajeet manifested a calmness and centeredness that I rarely find. He was naturally funny, exceptionally bright, intellectually curious and genuinely warm-hearted. I felt welcome in his presence, accepted, embraced.


I can still vividly recall our first dinner with the panel of presenters. Ajeet and I huddled in the corner, throwing around and trying on different critical theorists and Sikh scholars like they were old sweaters lumped together in a pile. We had both brought our respective intellectual wardrobes, and that night I discovered a whole new style. We hypothesized, intellectualized, and laughed throughout. It was one of the best nights of my life.


Ajeet's loss is both stunning and deeply saddening. My heart breaks, my soul tears. But he will not be forgotten.


Ajeet, in all of his academic splendor, testifies to one of the greatest truths: "God is not found by intellectual or clever devices" (SGGS, 1098). As a white American struggling to fit in, Ajeet showed me the love of God. "Those who serve You are immersed in You. You unite them in Union with Yourself" (SGGS, 1060).


Thank you, Ajeet, for your life and for your friendship.




So satguru piara mere naal hay: that beloved true Guru is always with me.





It Gets Better

This video is worth your time.







It gets better. Now, let's make it better. 


Get involved individually. Get involved collectively: let the Social Action Committee know you want to help First Parish become more engaged.


Blessings.

Sunday, November 21, 2010

Giving Thanks

What will you give thanks for this holiday? It's a simple question, really. But one of great magnitude and holy significance: "Rejoice always; pray without ceasing; give thanks in all circumstances" (1 Th. 5:16-18).


After having counted our blessings, we must ask ourselves: what to do with them? Give praise, yes. Perhaps even take someone aside after the Thursday meal to give them a big hug and express your gratitude for their love.


There are other ways to give thanks, as well. Like giving back. In a recent interview with ABC's Christiane Amanpour, billionaire Warren Buffett exclaimed: "I think that people at the high end, people like myself, should be paying a lot more in taxes. We have it better than we've ever had it." The vast majority of us do not have the luxury of asking the government to dip into our wallets. But the spirit of Buffett's confession - the admission that we all can find our own respective ways to help out by giving back (money, time, love) - that spirit should inspire us.


This afternoon, while grabbing a burrito at Felipe's in Harvard Square, I came upon an unshaven, disheveled man perched upon a ledge. "Can you help?" he pleaded. Slipping my hand into my pocket, I grabbed a handful of change and dumped the coins into his crumpled cup. Typically, I would have smiled and moved on, feeling quite good about my generosity. But the Spirit, for whatever reason, would not let me leave. I stood there, staring into the man's eyes, striking up a conversation. I asked him about his Thanksgiving plans, whether he would be able to feast on some turkey and gravy. He nodded. The man then explained his predicament, caught without work, unable to find an employer willing to accept his resume. "I'll get up and outta here some day." I listened deeply. And then, upon departing, we exchanged blessings. We both gave thanks for the time we had spent together.


What a small gift of great joy.


May you find time this holiday to listen and to be heard, to give love and to receive the warmth of relationship. Happy Thanksgiving.



Sunday, November 7, 2010

Imagination and Empathy

Ralph Waldo Emerson would have celebrated this morning's worship, which explored three overlapping pathways to the imagination: reason, movement and artistic inspiration. He insists that 'imagination is not a talent of some people, but is the health of every person.' Indeed, each of the three lay leaders testified to the importance of imagination in maintaining the health of their spiritual lives. Whether tempered by reason's pull towards practicality, harnessed during yogic meditation or emancipated from the shackles of the mundane through artistic expression, imagination seems to open a door to the not-yet - the world of maybes and oughts that lures us towards our better selves.


In a recent New York Times article, legal ethicist Martha Nussbaum argues that "we need the imaginative ability to put ourselves in the positions of people different from ourselves." Imagination, we might say, breeds empathy, literally 'in-feeling.' Through the use of our imagination, we learn to conjugate our possible-selves (i.e. the people we could become) with the fluency that we conjugate verbs. This ability to see ourselves in different circumstances and behaving in different ways in turn helps us come to see another person's situation as less distant or incomprehensible. 


A slightly odd, but timely, example: The other night I went to the cinema to watch Vision, the German-language film chronicling the life of medieval saint and seer Hildegard von Bingen. While the plot dragged at times, the visual depiction of, and musical landscape associated with, monastic life was striking. By the end, I found myself daydreaming, my imagination spinning ascetic incarnations of myself. What would it be like to dedicate the rest of my life to prayer and monastic work (ora et labora)? What would my meals taste like? How would my body feel as I lumped myself into bed? Considering these questions, I began to paint an emotional picture of a new way-of-being. I filled in, or 'feeling-ed in,' a different life position. I can't say I have since located a monk perusing Harvard Square with whom to evaluate my newfound level of empathy! But I can say, with some confidence, that I grew in my appreciation for the quiet life - for a simpler, but by no means easier, type of existence. 


This afternoon, while facilitating the Coming of Age scavenger hunt in downtown Boston, an adult parishioner spoke about his preference for frequent reprieve from the urban bustle. "Maybe I'm just a country boy," he exclaimed. And somehow, I felt a deeper connection, a stronger resonance, with his longing for quiet and simplicity.  


Take a moment to imagine: who could you be? Who might you become? 


What fantasies has your imagination planted in your mind?


And might these possible-you's enable a healthier relationship - with yourself and with others in your life?


Thought for the Week: We imagine ourselves into empathy.






Sunday, October 31, 2010

Costuming

Halloween has arrived: hungry, costumed hands scoop treats from large crucibles of sugary delight. Sweet-tooths take center stage, while other ghoulish figures lurk in the shadows, tending to the stock of chocolate surprises.
The 19th c. Unitarian Minister and his Shadow.

As Parisa mentioned this morning, the growing passion for the holiday may reflect an increasing awareness of the thin line separating life and death. In experimenting with who we are in costume, we cannot help but notice that some day we will not be at all. Our imaginative revelry cannot fully hide the truth of a death that is real, ultimate, closed to zombie re-awakenings.

That is not to say, of course, that death necessarily curtails our fantasy - or that it marks the end of our journeys. But its certainty provokes fear. And Halloween is when we get to act that fear out.

Perhaps it is worth considering: who will you be this year - in costume, and in your daily life? What personality will you take on? And might this safe, holiday fantasy make way for a more sustained experimentation with you who aspire to be in your un-costumed world?

May this Halloween season shine new light on old shadows. May it invite you to see yourself in another way. And may it reassure you that despite the truth crouching behind plastic gravestones, there is still some more time to dress up!

Thursday, October 28, 2010

Crime on Blue Hill Avenue

Last month, youth and staff from First Parish attended a vigil in Mattapan sponsored by the Morning Star Baptist Church. WGBH reporter Phillip Martin covered the event. You can listen to his story here.

Sunday, October 24, 2010

Eternity

This morning's service was touching, vibrant and Spirit-filled. It was also long. Thus, I have decided to reproduce some of the denser sections of my sermon below. I welcome your feedback and invite conversation through blog comments, as you are moved.


“Take hold of the eternal life to which you were called and about which you made the good confession in the presence of many witnesses.” - 1 Timothy 6:12

Where is this eternal life to which we were called? What is it? If you, like me, consume a daily glass of skepticism to guard against spiritual heart attacks, you may not be entirely sure that you even want to wash up on eternity’s distant shore. Eternity can feel infinitely removed from the tangled temporal mess of our present situation. And truth be told, there is something compelling, something beautiful, about hacking through the thicket of time with the people we love.

How, then, are we to understand the eternity that has called us and that eagerly awaits our arrival?

The late Unitarian Universalist minister Forrest Church insists that eternity is not a length of time but instead a depth in time. It is a quality of time, measured not by the instruments of physics but by the instruments of our souls – when a single moment holds the meaning of a lifetime: the first cry of a newborn child; the unrolling of a high school diploma; the soft whisper of a lifelong friend, ‘I love you.’ These are the moments in time, large and small, predictably momentous and unexpectedly touching, when the clouds of the everyday tear open to reveal the limitless skies of the eternal. We experience eternity on rare occasion and yet it beckons us with every breath.

The depth of eternity cannot be represented, bounded or defined.
Rather, eternity must be experienced, enacted. It must bare your soul.

Over the past decade, I have come to realize that my story is small, that it is only one. But still it is one. And it is not mine alone. The story that I live, or rather, the story that lives me, has its origin in the greatness of that pulsating cosmos. It hinges on the stories of my ancestors; it turns on the stories of my family; it binds up the stories of all those individuals and traditions that have shaped me long before I could ever shape them. My story, of course, is not yet finished. And some day, death will demand my pen halfway through, leaving it to others to finish writing the meaning of my life.

This is true of your small story as well.

Ministry, for me, is about sanctifying these stories: helping us to render these stories sacred, while reminding us that they already are.
***

Last Sunday, Rev. Parsa introduced confession as a form of speaking together. And then, after worship service, this congregation spoke. We spoke our story: we adopted a new covenant.

Although I joined you towards its conclusion, I want to believe that the process in which you engaged to create this document opened space for the eternal. In the listening circles, in your coffee hour conversations, in committee meetings and draft revisions, I suspect that you experienced a different quality of time together: a newfound depth of relationship.

I do not need to tell you that First Parish is old; its founding predates the founding of this nation by almost a century. But perhaps I would do well to stress how young our new covenantal story still remains. You might say we have only written its preface. It is the way in which we live out these words that will fill the remaining pages of our shared story.

I quite like the musical analogy: We have the score, now we must make the music. For without sound, the notes of our covenant amount to little more than symbolic notation. This also explains why we don’t allow ourselves to get lost in the words. They are guideposts on our journey to eternal life, but they are not eternity itself.

If confession calls us to speak these words together, my prayer as your Intern Minister is that I may join you in living them out.

Let us not forget, though, the other meaning of confession.

At the beginning of this service, we welcomed two young souls into our care. The truth, of course, is that we will never be able to fully protect the children we just dedicated. We simply cannot guard them from the trapdoors of life; we simply cannot stave off the uninvited shadows of life. Yet, we pledge wholeheartedly and in good faith, to care for them, precisely because we know that they are deserving of our love and that love is real.

I want to suggest that our covenant rests on this same confessional logic. The ideals of our covenant are real, even if unrealizable. They point to the eternal.

Unitarian Universalism has exhibited a tendency of late to nudge eternity out of covenant. In so doing, covenant becomes little more than a promise to walk together. This is important, no doubt, but insufficient. And this reduction of covenant to a pinky-swear undermines the concept’s scriptural precedent. Where is the Holy? Is covenant not so much more than consensus? Is it not an invitation to sacred living, a path to the eternal life, a celebration of all that is Holy in this world?

Confession serves as a lens through which we may regain this holy purpose.

When we confess our covenant, we acknowledge both the frailties of the mortal and the splendor of the eternal. Our limitation comes into sharp relief only against the backdrop of the unlimited. Every shadow necessitates the flood of greater light.
***
My religious companions, we are building beloved community as we go. We are glimpsing eternity as we learn to see. And First Parish is where we practice. Church is where we improve our eyesight. In communal worship, in committee work, in our Small Group Ministries, these are the venues for learning how to live out our covenant.

Ask yourself: where am I practicing? How am I preparing myself for eternity?

Part of our building a new way is the recognition that we will fall short. That we will have to ask for forgiveness. And that such love will be granted. This is the meaning of living out our covenant confessionally.

Sunday, October 17, 2010

Our New Covenant

Opening the liturgical theme of confession, Parisa expanded the term to include both private and corporate spheres of meaning. Individually, we confess, or ‘admit’ to, the ways in which we fall short of our ideals. This need not result in a guilt-inducing act of self-flagellation. Rather, we notice and name our shortcomings as an invitation to, as William Ellery Channing famously exhorted, “grow in the likeness of God.” Of course, our ability to transcend our own imperfection depends in large part on those individuals who companion us on the journey. Hence the importance of community. Parisa spoke passionately about the welcomed challenge of practicing physical fitness in a class environment, where the leader and fellow classmates simultaneously hold you accountable for your participation and push you past your comfort zone. So, too, as we train our spiritual health. By coming together in religious community, we pledge ourselves to aspirations of heightened character and purpose. Though we may well fall short of their unwavering attainment, we nevertheless vow to stand for them and by them. We confess, literally ‘acknowledge together,’ that these ways-of-being inform our time together, and in so doing form us in their image. Their goodness and truth serve as the measure against which we mark our creatureliness.


Following today’s service, the congregation voted to adopt a revision to its present Ames-inspired covenant, thereby acknowledging together how our faith community understands who it currently is and who it ought to become. This decision follows months of deep listening, thoughtful reflection and democratic discussion. I close with the words of this new covenant, as I pray it will serve as an ample source of reflection for this week, and for years to come:


In devotion to truth, searching along many spiritual paths,
We honor the living legacy of our faith in the human potential for goodness and in the God of limitless love, in whom we are one.
We unite in faith,
To celebrate the sacred as it reveals itself within and among us;
To promote spiritual growth and to care for those in need;
To honor and protect the natural world, which inspires wonder and sustains life;
To walk together in peace, committed to justice and compassion in our world.






Reflection for the Week: Our New Covenant

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Animal Lessons


Upon returning this morning from a brief getaway, I was heartened to learn from staff and the local press that the Animal Blessing service this past Sunday was powerful and of great meaning to those involved. Amen!


Even though I did not spend the long weekend in Milton, my time away from church was not absent of canine companions. In fact, on Saturday I attended the annual Dog Show in Essex, CT. Skirting the glorious shoreline on a crisp, sun-drenched New England day, local residents gathered from surrounding communities to see and be seen with their leashed friends. Although the organizers offered best of show prizes in a variety of categories for the more competitively minded, most participants seemed to ultimately appreciate the invitation to simply share in doggy fellowship. Young children adoringly approached owners with a proposition too cute to refuse: ‘May I pet your dog?’ Between the sniffing, rolling and digging – of canine and human alike! – neighbors bonded and fresh faces were welcomed into the community. In effect, it was the love of individuals for their animals that opened the door to a greater love amongst such individuals themselves. 

The linguistic designation ‘animal’ derives from the Latin animale, signaling a ‘living being.’ It is a short leap from animale to animus: breath, soul. Beneath their furry exteriors, deep within their panting, slobbering, smiling selves, the dogs in Essex breathed new life into the community. Their effusive personalities, sense of companionship and yearning for intimacy seemed to teach us all about how to live – about what it means to be a ‘living being.’ As Sufi mystic Ibn ‘Arabi once observed: “Nature is in reality nothing other than the Breath of Compassion.” Despite significant linguistic barriers and noticeably different ways (and, at times, heights) of looking at the world, these dogs and humans seemed to share a common soul. As one woman stated, nestling her fuzzy Shih Tzu into the cave of her neck: “He’s my world.”  

It is fitting that we should acknowledge the many ways in which our animals bless us before offering them blessings in return.

That is not to say, of course, that the animal world displays a romanticized harmony. For every dog tenderly playing in Essex, another one was growling or defending her territory. Nature comprises both constructive and destructive potencies. And I want to believe that the blessings offered this past Sunday incorporated this holy observation as well.

In the Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji, the scripture of the Sikhs, we read: “Naked we come, and naked we go; in between, we put on a show.” Animals may open our eyes and hearts to this truth most poignantly. After all, three days out I can hardly remember which dog won first or second prize at the Dog Show in Essex – what I do vividly recall is the difference those canine consorts made in the lives of others.  



Reflection for the week: May we bless those who have 'shown' us blessing.  

Sunday, October 3, 2010

After Fifty Years

Today’s service offered a rousing call to risk a leap of faith – in ourselves as a church community and in the promise of our religious movement. Parisa passionately connected our sense of urgency to the heroic story of Le Chambon-sur-Lignon, a rural village in south-central France that offered shelter to Jewish refugees fleeing Nazi persecution. Although the contexts differ dramatically, we Unitarian Universalists would do well to draw inspiration from their stories of radical hospitality and communal care. And indeed, our denomination has time and again demonstrated an audacious commitment to historically marginalized groups. We have extended an invitation of beloved community to women seeking ordination, to LGBTQ persons and, more recently, to racial and ethnic minorities.

Nevertheless, Unitarian Universalism has been largely relegated to by-stander at the parade of American religiosity. Consider: how often do you encounter someone who has actually heard of, let alone is familiar with, our faith tradition? I know that for me, as a minister in formation, I often spend more time describing the religion in which I hope one day to minister than I do relaying my calling to that ministry. Demographically, though, this inconvenient truth should not surprise us. In fact, this country claims more Neo-Nazi sympathizers than it does Unitarian Universalists.    

Our history holds fast to the dream of greatness, however. This year marks the fiftieth anniversary of what former Unitarian Universalist Association (UUA) president Robert N. West called the ‘Unitarian Council of Nicea.’ Foreshadowed and rehearsed by youth in the 1954 decision to join Unitarian and Universalist young adult ministry into the Liberal Religious Youth, the process of birthing our two-headed theological nomenclature reached an emotional climax in 1960. That year, at the annual meeting in Boston, hundreds of robed ministers joined with lay delegates to sing the processional hymn:

As tranquil streams that meet and merge
And flow as one to seek the sea,
Our kindred fellowships unite
To build a church that shall be free.

The blessing and the curse of a free church, of course, is that we have to choose our direction. In no uncertain terms, we are the ones who may choose to be relevant by opening ourselves to difference and thereby expanding our inter-connectedness. When the American Unitarian Association and the Universalist Church of American took the leap of faith to consolidate, they risked partisanship for the greater cause of relevancy. They opted for a united institution of power that could wield the power of institution for the cause of justice-making and community-building. Preaching the homily at the annual worship service in 1960, Donald Harrington described the milestone event as “partly a new birth, partly a commencement, partly a kind of marriage [but also] … a degree of death.” Fifty years later, we are the ones charged with the task of writing the occasion’s legacy. Was consolidation the beginning of a new and vibrant faith journey, or the beginning of that journey’s end?

Walking through the Harvard campus, climbing the stairs of Widener Library and cutting through the Yard, I cannot help but notice my sense of smallness – a wave of humility routinely washes over me on such wanderings. The walkways I regularly travel once carried those courageous individuals, some popularly known and others lost to history, who made profound contributions to human knowledge and the shape of our society today. I catch myself, from time to time, asking that infamous question: do I really deserve to be here, studying for the ministry at Harvard Divinity School?

This question is one that we Unitarian Universalists might consider asking as well: do we deserve our historical legacy, as spotted and imperfect as it may be? Or even more poignantly, do we deserve to survive? Do we deserve relevancy?

It is tempting, of course, to rattle off a litany of justifications for our enduring existence as a faith tradition, much as it is tempting for me to dig through my résumé or transcript to validate my studies at Harvard. But I wonder whether there’s another way.

I want to believe that our justification lies less in our past and more in our future. The question ‘do I deserve this’ can only be answered retrospectively. After all, I am studying at Harvard and Unitarian Universalism, while peripheral, is still relevant. Thank God! Thus, the deeper question becomes: so what? How will my actions today and tomorrow validate the privileges I have already been granted?

It is a blessing to call oneself a Unitarian Universalist. Now, what are we going to do about it?

Reflection for the week: Our actions tomorrow sanctify our being today.  

    

Sunday, September 26, 2010

Welcoming the Stranger

Immigration proves a sticky and contentious issue, burrowing down to the core of how we understand ourselves and our neighbors. What defines us as Americans? What is the relationship between our immigrant heritages – having, as a species, wandered the globe in evolutionary quest for habitability – and our intuitive sense of being ‘home’?

The three lay worship leaders this morning did a beautiful job of caringly and expansively adding personal and spiritual context to these challenging questions. They called us to recognize our underlying human unity; to trace a thread of neighborly compassion directly through the Abrahamic religious patchwork into which we Unitarian Universalists are woven; and to reverently register the courageous decision in 2004 to call an Iranian-American woman as the minister of First Parish. The spiritual work of living in right relationship to those who seem ‘foreign’ is ongoing, and challenging at that. But as Unitarian Universalist minister Amanda Aikman reminds us, “ours is a faith of radical hospitality, a radically inclusive witness in an exclusionary world.” Amidst the cacophony of vitriolic ethnocentrism that strips ‘aliens’ of their very humanity, we can choose to do better – in smiles and with handshakes, in the ballot box and with our patronage, in open-mindedness and with appreciation.

Having grown up as an American overseas, I know well the tenuous act of balancing multiple identities. At times, I felt like an outsider in both worlds. I struggled to reconcile the bounded ‘me’ of my passport with the untidy, often self-contradictory, inner ‘me’ that seeped through national labels. Neighbors didn’t hesitate to bring to my attention to the American-ness of my hobbies or the German-ness of dress. Some embraced me warmheartedly for the cultural mélange I was living; others dismissed me as confusing, or mysterious. While I certainly didn’t suffer from the degree of xenophobia that other immigrant groups experience even today, I came to understand the precarious nature of liminality – of ‘in-between-ness’ – of moving among societies and between peoples.

Etymologically, the term immigrant derives from this experience of ‘moving’ and ‘going.’ I encourage you to take a moment to consider: when did you, or a member of your family, move across this bridge of in-between-ness? What was it like to immigrate? What was gained, what was lost, along the journey? If answers to these questions are not immediately forthcoming, you might try reaching out to other family members to piece your story together. Knowing ourselves, learning about our own immigrant past, opens our hearts to empathically hearing the stories of others.

This rationale undergirds the Jewish exhortation in Exodus: ‘You must not mistreat or oppress foreigners in any way. Remember, you yourselves were once foreigners in the land of Egypt.’ Welcome others as you would have wanted to be welcomed. In the process, you may get to know someone else more intimately and, by extension, learn something new about yourself. Inviting difference into our lives holds the promise of self-transformation.


Reflection for the week: Hospitality changes our relationship to others and with ourselves. 

Sunday, September 19, 2010

Our Neighbor's Fence

During worship this past Sunday, Rev. Parsa extended the theme of wholeness to a consideration of our attitudes and behaviors towards human difference. Despite the valiant banners of global peace and inter-cultural understanding that we may carry, living in right relationship with our neighbors is rarely comfortable or easy. Too often we succumb to the specter of fear and suspicion that haunts the horizon of beloved community. We take refuge in excuses instead of trusting that love will guide our way.

Somewhere in the rocky sea of daily living, you have likely sailed upon the proverb ‘Good fences make good neighbors.’ In common parlance, of course, the aphorism functions as a caution against excessive intimacy and prescribes a ‘healthy dose’ of distrust. You keep to your side, I’ll keep to mine. By extension, then, peace amounts to little more than the absence of conflict: so long as we don’t fight, we’re golden.

A cursory glance at the source of that saying reveals a rather different outlook, however. In his poem, Mending Wall, Robert Frost playfully describes the exchange between two neighbors as they discuss the rebuilding of a stone barrier separating their respective properties. The speaker repeatedly chides his interlocutor for resorting to his father’s suspicious rationale: “He will not go behind his father’s saying,/
And he likes having thought of it so well/
He says again, ‘Good fences make good neighbors.’” Frost’s speaker is not convinced by this logic – he adds in jest: “He is all pine and I am apple orchard./
My apple trees will never get across/
And eat the cones under his pines, I tell him.” Fences cut off, dissect, block out. “Why do they make good neighbors?” Frost wonders.

I would imagine that we all have encountered individuals in our lives whom we initially would prefer to fence out. But wholeness, and peace, demand of us something greater, something deeper, than distant tolerance. I am reminded of a Turkish proverb, which reads: She who builds a fence, fences out more than she fences in.

Take a moment to reflect: what might I be missing when I hold back from human relationships? Who am I really fencing out – or fencing in?


The French mystic Simone Weil takes us deeper: "To love our neighbor as ourselves ... [means that] we should have with each person the relationship of one conception of the universe to another conception of the universe, and not to a part of the universe."  

So often, neighbors trouble and surprise our premature judgments once we greet them face-to-face, in their beautifully fractured totality, instead of merely glaring at their shadowy forms through the narrow slits of our fences.

Reflection for the week: Fences prevent us from seeing ourselves and others as wholes.

Wednesday, September 15, 2010

Ends and Beginnings

This past Sunday, Rev. Parsa introduced the theme of wholeness as a lens through which to understand the mission of church life. As fragments of divine light – fragile people thrown into a hurting world – we gather together in fellowship to repair ourselves and the world: tikkun olam.

If you were listening carefully to Rachel Naomi Remen’s rendition of the Kabalistic story of creation, you likely heard the cosmology’s underlying paradox: the end is nothing more than a return to the beginning. In effect, humanity’s task of restitution – of bringing the world back to its original state of divine omni-presence – represents the highest end, the greatest possible achievement. To reach the end of time is to arrive at its beginning.

This cyclical framework of human progress is not foreign to our Unitarian Universalist tradition. In fact, you need not look much farther than our trusty grey hymnal, Singing the Living Tradition:

What we call a beginning is often the end
And to make an end is to make a beginning.
The end is where we start from.
- T.S. Eliot (#685)

Ask yourself: what is closing in my life to make room for a new opening? What beginning must end so that I can embark on a new beginning?

I know for me, the road to First Parish was paved with endings. I had to say goodbye to the familiarity of the classroom, to the church community with which I worshipped on Sunday, to the luxury of not using a car – and to my academic scholarship! These are but a sampling of the many closings, large and small, that opened my path to ministry in Milton.

I have repeated on multiple occasions how good it is to be at First Parish. I would not change a thing. But it is important, I believe, to notice and to name the ends. Some we welcome, some we lament. Either way, we carry all of them with us. Living in awareness of and appreciation for the shadows of the past brings the light of the future into sharper relief.

Reflection for the week: The end clears space for new beginnings.